Jun 20 2014

Anxiety Dream

Last night I dreamed that I was on the run from some sort of unexplained danger, shepherding the kids through an abandoned industrial center—like a waste-treatment plant or something. Lots of big vats and steel grating and catwalks and stuff.

Somewhere along the way, I lost track of Robin. I hunted and called for him frantically, and finally I caught a glimpse of him cowering in a crawlspace. In the space of minutes his hair had grown long and shaggy and covered his face. He cringed and snapped at me when I reached for him. And I remembered, then, something that in the dream I had always known: when boys grow up, they become savage, hairy, feral beasts. The dream-logic presented it as just a fact of nature, unavoidable, inalterable.

And I just started crying, “no, not my sweet Robin, not yet, it’s too soon! He still has baby teeth!” And then I woke up.

I think my subconscious is anticipating some issues with the teenage years.


Jun 15 2014

Happy Father’s Day!

To Pops and Pappy and Markie and Grandpa Wayne, but most of all to Sam, who carries this family with strength, generosity and good humor.

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Jun 10 2014

Snapshots from a Family Reunion

A couple weekends ago we flew to Dallas to celebrate my grandmother’s 90th birthday. It was a really nice celebration of her many achievements and a chance for our whole far-flung family to gather. Here’s nearly the whole clan on my mother’s side (thanks to my cousin Jessie for the photo):

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And a couple of moments between second cousins (these both snapped by my cousin Pei):

Robin and Calvin

Sol and Harrison

Flying with three small children is not quite the ninth circle of hell, but easily the third or fourth. Still, I’m glad we had the chance to be part of such a special event. Many thanks to my mom and aunts for organizing the reunion, and to my grandmother for creating such a splendid family and living a life that inspires celebration.


Jun 6 2014

Happy Birthday to Me

Happy birthday to me
We live by the sea
Sometimes we’re stinky
But we blame the doggie!

Thank you to everyone for the cards and phone calls and nice birthday wishes! I am having a chill, relaxed, very enjoyable birthday snuggling with the baby and looking forward to a macaroni feast tonight (Sam’s cooking, and he’s really good at macaroni and cheese). Everyone is in fine fettle. Another year of this, please!


Jun 2 2014

IndieReader Discovery Awards

I’m very pleased to announce that The Millennial Sword has been named the winner of the 2014 IndieReader Discovery Award in the Fantasy category. IndieReader also posted a nice review of my book and named it a “top book pick” on their site. And they’re sending me some shiny gold award stickers that I can put on the books at the store, so, you know, that’s pretty fun!


May 29 2014

The Bunny Hunt, 2014

The Bunny Hunt is an annual tradition at the Peter Peter preschool, and it’s such a fun day that we let Robin play hooky from kindergarten in order to come out and play in the park with his little brothers. Here’s some pictures that my friend Andrea Millheim took of the boys:

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We didn’t catch any bunnies, not even with our best disguises on, but we did have a great time.


May 28 2014

Things That Annoy Me, A Continuing Series: Bad Food Photography

I have these Facebook friends* who insist on taking cellphone snapshots of their food and then labeling it #foodporn. Which would be fine—I love food porn, and I’m actually quite interested in what my friends happen to be eating for lunch. I’m not one of those people who rolls their eyes about social media posts revolving around breakfast. BREAKFAST IS THE MOST IMPORTANT MEAL OF THE DAY! Except maybe for second breakfast, and elevenses, and lunch, and…really, tell me what you’re eating, I want to know!

But I don’t want to have to look at your crappy cellphone photos of it. Because invariably, that picture tagged “#foodporn”? It’s a plate of food, not quite in focus, the colors washed out to a rubbery grey, and a horrible glistening sheen cast over everything that makes it look like a washed-up pile of jellyfish left in the sun for three days and picked over by gulls. Your kale salads, your wild boar ragu, your foie gras walnut brioche: it all looks like the refuse of seagulls.

Food photography is hard, you guys. It takes good lighting, a decent camera, and skill. (It also annoys me when people argue about which cellphone takes the best pictures. You know what takes good pictures? A camera.)

Look, even Martha Stewart can’t make her cellphone food pictures look appetizing. You can’t either. Get a real camera and some direct lighting or just tell us about the amazing Monte Cristo you had this afternoon at that little place in Belden alley. Sometimes a hundred words are much, much better than a picture.

*(I’m not talking about you, Todd. You’re not “a Facebook friend,” you’re an ACTUAL friend. And you only did this once. At which point you were immediately treated to a personal performance of this rant. So, not talking about you!)


May 26 2014

In Support of Reparations

So y’all know that Ta-Nehisi Coates is my favorite long-form journalist working today. His latest—“The Case for Reparations”—is a doozy.

With segregation, with the isolation of the injured and the robbed, comes the concentration of disadvantage. An unsegregated America might see poverty, and all its effects, spread across the country with no particular bias toward skin color. Instead, the concentration of poverty has been paired with a concentration of melanin. The resulting conflagration has been devastating.

One thread of thinking in the African American community holds that these depressing numbers partially stem from cultural pathologies that can be altered through individual grit and exceptionally good behavior. (In 2011, Philadelphia Mayor Michael Nutter, responding to violence among young black males, put the blame on the family: “Too many men making too many babies they don’t want to take care of, and then we end up dealing with your children.” Nutter turned to those presumably fatherless babies: “Pull your pants up and buy a belt, because no one wants to see your underwear or the crack of your butt.”) The thread is as old as black politics itself. It is also wrong. The kind of trenchant racism to which black people have persistently been subjected can never be defeated by making its victims more respectable. The essence of American racism is disrespect. And in the wake of the grim numbers, we see the grim inheritance.

But while the people advocating reparations have changed over time, the response from the country has remained virtually the same. “They have been taught to labor,” the Chicago Tribune editorialized in 1891. “They have been taught Christian civilization, and to speak the noble English language instead of some African gibberish. The account is square with the ex‑slaves.”

Not exactly.

I had to sit with it a while, because honestly, if you’d asked me before I read this article whether I supported reparations for the descendants of slaves my answer would have been an unequivocal “no.” The slaveholders are dead, that chapter in history is closed, yadda yadda.

The thing is, it isn’t closed. As a country, we kind of went directly from allowing slavery (pre-Civil War) to preferring not to talk about slavery (as a high school student in Arkansas I was directly taught that the Civil War was “not about slavery”). It’s not ancient history, either. You only have to go a couple generations back to find people who were born in slavery. Jim Crow is a living memory. Redlining and prison injustice and voter disenfranchisement—stuff that’s happening right now—is a direct legacy of slavery.

As a country, we need to stop pretending that slavery is a shameful-but-closed chapter that lies somewhere far back in the mists of history.

So, I have changed my mind. I believe that the U.S. government should pay reparations to families descended from slaves, probably an equivalent to the survivor benefit that’s paid to heirs of soldiers killed in combat. It won’t “make it right,” of course—nothing could do that—but it would be an open-eyed acknowledgement that justice continues to be owed.


May 21 2014

Fae Release Date and Giveaway

I’ve got some information to share on the upcoming Fae anthology from World Weaver Press (which includes one of my short stories). It will be released in paperback and e-book formats on July 22, and to promote the book there’s now a giveaway promotion running on Goodreads. Six readers chosen at random from all those who enter will receive free copies. (U.S. and Canada residents only, I’m afraid.) Here’s a bit of a teaser:

Meet Robin Goodfellow as you’ve never seen him before, watch damsels in distress rescue themselves, get swept away with the selkies and enjoy tales of hobs, green men, pixies and phookas. One thing is for certain, these are not your grandmother’s fairy tales.

Fairies have been both mischievous and malignant creatures throughout history. They’ve dwelt in forests, collected teeth or crafted shoes. Fae is full of stories that honor that rich history while exploring new and interesting takes on the fair folk from castles to computer technologies and modern midwifing, the Old World to Indianapolis.

Fae covers a vast swath of the fairy story spectrum, making the old new and exploring lush settings with beautiful prose and complex characters. Enjoy the familiar feeling of a good old-fashioned fairy tale alongside urban fantasy and horror with a fae twist.

With an introduction by Sara Cleto and Brittany Warman, and all new stories from Sidney Blaylock Jr., Amanda Block, Kari Castor, Beth Cato, Liz Colter, Rhonda Eikamp, Lor Graham, Alexis A. Hunter, L.S. Johnson, Jon Arthur Kitson, Adria Laycraft, Lauren Liebowitz, Christine Morgan, Shannon Phillips, Sara Puls, Laura VanArendonk Baugh, and Kristina Wojtaszek.

So if that sounds like your cuppa, click on over to the giveaway, and good luck!


May 11 2014

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Happy Mother’s Day, most of all to my own Mom—your staunch support and ferocious advocacy have been my greatest advantages in life.